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Please Weigh In

That’s my son about to unfold a Christ Air into the sunset. In his dreams.

Going to a skate park is number one on his list whenever he is asked what he would like to do. We are fortunate to have 3 pretty awesome ones around us. The one above, overlooking the Pacific Ocean, sadly is not one of them.

My two boys love their bikes, scooter, and rip-sticks, and are pretty fly on those on a skate park, no pun intended. I feel their excitement mounting after we park as they retrieve their wheels and put on their helmets.

But I’ve found that there’s a darkside to all this, again, no pun intended (the darkside is the bottom side of your skateboard). See, my guys are groms or grommets. In other words, they are ams. (Newbies for those looking at me cock-eyed). They don’t have very fancy moves yet. The goal is to become a sick ripper. This is risky business so you must avoid slams which could have deleterious outcomes such as a swellbow. Incidentally, my boys have broken about three bones apiece and not a one at a skate park. Another important goal is not to be a snake, i.e. a person that cuts other people off.

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The older kids at the park make me think of swaggering young bucks sprouting horns. They dominate the park with their glorious moves, and worse, with their attitudes and crude language. We learned pretty early in our skate park career that they love to hear themselves talk. It’s very strange to me to hear expletives coming from young mouths. They seem to be trying it on for size and coolness. They overuse  it and try to outdo each other.

It also bothers me at some deep level. A few years ago, I told my boys what the main cuss words in the culture were and what they meant. I also made it abundantly clear that they were not to use them. There was no need for them and there were many, many alternative words to express oneself.

I am curious to hear various adults’ approach to this problem (if you consider it a problem) in public. Please weigh in and share how you do or would handle handle kids swearing in public, particularly in the absence of their parents or responsible adults. I am particularly interested in more creative approaches than glaring at them or banging their heads together.

photos retrieved from:

1. goodfreephotos.com/united-states/california/los-angeles/skate-park-by-the-ocean-in-los-angeles-california/jpg.php on 10/16/2017

2. https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photo-young-buck-deer-nub-horns-black-eyes-wet-nose-brown-white-fur-image58792408 on 10/17/2017

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/risky/

 

6 thoughts on “Please Weigh In

      1. I intensity/attitude with which it’s said is further upsetting. Why such an intense reaction to a small aggravation? Is it because at home the kids hears, “eat your f-ing” food!” Or “clean up your f-ing mess”. Disturbing. My macho neighbor regularly yells at his very young kids “…you little sh*t,” with an intensity that makes me want to piddle my pants. Not that there’s a nice way to say that…

  1. I raised 4 children of my own and my oldest son was 40 before he said a cuss word in front of his mother. I seems you are doing it right with your own sons. I found that the key to getting others to not cuss is simply show them respect and you will usually receive respect. Don’t be afraid to talk to them as you would your own children. You’d be surprised how many will respond to a request to not use vulgar language. Of course, I am old and don’t hang around the park too much…but I would like to believe that most people are good at heart.

    1. You make 2 good points. I was able to salvage a strained relationship with a new friend who cussed with every single sentence she used, no matter the subject matter or the company present. When I brought it up, she was stunned and very grateful as she never realized how much she did it or its impact on relationships. 2. There’s little correlation between cussing and how “good” people are.
      Thanks for sharing your wisdom

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